What this means is that a lot of stress can be created assuming you know what others are thinking without checking with them. Understanding that other people might have different motivations to act, even drastic worldviews on your part, and really remembering to try to understand others and discuss these motivations before jumping to conclusions about their behavior, can help prevent interpersonal conflicts. Good morning, Dr. Johnson and everyone else. I love it! If someone could tell us what the truth is, we could all “tell.” Most so-called truths are judgments. When I started as a counsellor, I taught people the standard statements “Me” and “Feel.” They came out: “I feel like a Jackass!” { : > ) The second agreement offers readers the opportunity to manage the hurtful treatments of others that they can experience in life. She argues that it is important to have a strong self-concept and not to have to rely on the opinions of others to be satisfied and satisfied with their self-concept. This agreement also allows readers to understand the idea that each individual has a unique vision of the world that changes his or her own perception and that a person`s actions and beliefs are a projection of his or her personal reality. [1] Ruiz believes that anger, jealousy, envy and even sadness can subside or dissipate as soon as an individual stops taking things in person. [8] But there is also another kind of “selfishness” which simply means taking care of yourself and going according to what one wants without harming others.

I wrote about it in another PT post, “Good, neutral and evil selfishness.” One drawback of the book is that some of the chords are too extreme, and if you take them literally, they can cause additional problems in your life if taken without a proverbial grain of salt. However, with a little balance and a sense of openness, these chords can change and alleviate stress. Here is an explanation of the four agreements. (3) Find what really brings you joy and go away – follow your bliss If your faith creates in you a deep happiness, I say: Keep it. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can leave you with the choice of what you believe and what you let go. Many of our convictions, our concepts, our agreements were nourished to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream” of life. The only dream they gave us was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc. If you have done your best and your inner judge is trying to judge you, you have the answer: “I did my best.” There is no remorse. That`s why we do our best. It`s not just a deal, but this agreement is really going to set you free.

I interpreted “is” as living in the present and “was” the representation of past behaviors. Tension change probably intentionally. The best way to develop knowledge is to bypass other evaluations and read the material and develop your own knowledge. Because I also look at topics in relation to me My opinion is that we all get something different from any book, based on completely different emotional reactions, based on the observations of a group that reads all four chords at the same time. There were about 50 of them, and I recommended it to a brother and sister who had a childhood trauma. He read the first chapters in tears, but he understood the healing power in himself. The first one only me off, but I understood that he was drawing why we shouldn`t believe that way. Be immaculate with your word. Don`t take anything personal. Don`t make any assumptions.

Always do your best. The light and the truth. I simply suggest that they consider reading the four chords if you want to have a clearer picture of Miguel Ruiz`s perspective.